Thursday night at Bymark – Aida’s Perspective
July 12, 2009
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Tags: Bars, Dating Scene, Life, Love, Men, Relationships, Summer, Toronto
So! Thursday, July 9th marked the first night out for the “project”. Sofia could not make it but Emily and I were determined to start the adventure.
We had a bit of difficulty finding the place as we confused the TD Tower with the TD Centre, which is where Bymark is located. As soon as we arrived, I realized that I was totally not dressed appropriately. I felt uncomfortable and started struggling with my feelings. The crowd was all business with the exception of a few women dressed perhaps a bit too provocative for their age. There was quite a range in age but you could definitely tell that the crowd had money. Bymark was full of people with large expense accounts. The menu required it as well! We ordered drinks and appetizers hoping to keep the tab small. The food was great and I really liked my martini, which was Bymark’s signature drink.
Was the evening successful? It is very difficult to say. We didn’t meet any men, in fact, we didn’t mingle with any men. I made a very weak attempt at starting a conversation with someone behind the bar that acted like a manager/owner of the place. He wasn’t very impressed so the conversation didn’t go too far. The evening however helped me determine what it was that I wanted from this experience. One thing is for sure, I really do not want to frequent bars to simply look pretty and scout men…hoping that someone will come approach or I catch the eye of someone cute. This is not me and that is exactly why I felt so comfortable and out of place at Bymark. I knew deep down that I went there with the wrong intentions. I felt like a gold-digger and so out of place. Not a great feeling, trust me! Although the fact that I couldn’t afford everything on the menu saddened me, I did like the place so I would like to go simply with the intent of enjoying some drinks with friends. I do not want to have ulterior motives when going to bars…the goal should be to simply talk and have fun.
I have decided that I only want to meet guys naturally…I know the chances of bumping into my dream guy on the street is slim so I will create opportunities to meet people in general. However, these opportunities should be around activities that I enjoy as well. Perhaps, sport, culture and art events. Teresa suggested that we join a ski club and I’ve always wanted to learn so why not?!!! I will share this idea with the girls and see what they think. But my days of going to bars purposefully looking for a guy are over. I will try to convince the girls to only go to bars perhaps once every two weeks to talk about our progress. This way, we will be killing two birds with one stone. We will have our meeting as planned and also get to try nice posh bars and lounges in Toronto. And who knows? We might meet a guy on one of our outings but at least it won’t be planned. I wouldn’t mind going to ByMark again to have that yummy Bymark martini with ABSOLUT Citron, pink grapefruit juice and Champagne…yum! Plus, I can afford the martinis 
hmmm….I wonder where this adventurous project will take me next…hmmmm
Bymark - pricey but nice
Entry Filed under: Bars,Dating Scenes,Life,Lounges,Love,Men,Relationships,Summer,Toronto
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